“I’ve been dating my husband for 8 years. For me, personally, I would never marry someone who wasn’t queer. We are definitely getting better but at times my husband and I are at different levels. It’s been interesting learning, changing, and growing together. We’ve been married for 5 years and I might not be the one to speak about how great queer marriage is, but I like it. I like being in a relationship and being with someone who changes with me as we get to know each other more. I’ve watched people change in their lives, to be the worst and best versions of themselves. And there are so many types of different relationships. If you cling onto something, like the idea of something or someone, you’re always going to be disappointed. I’ve always seen tension grow for people who try to keep things the way they are instead of accepting that it is bound to change. I have a lot of college friends who are just now going through crises of identity and I am so well prepared to tell them about what’s going on. You’re just going through this understanding that what you’ve been socialized to want might not be what you actually want.”
— Elliot Henderson (he/him), 28, transgender male, bisexual.
